Urban Dictionary says a Value Add is "the reason I'd like you to think I'm useful."
I'm searching for my value add. Who's life do I matter to? What do I bring to the table.
Unfortunately in business I don't see a Value Add for myself. I have very limited skills. And the training I did for those skills is outdated.
The only value I have currently is being Mom to Anthony and Alexander. My focus needs to stay on them. What do they need and how do I make their life better.
Every time I have thought about divorce before there was usually a picture in my head on where I would go . I don't have that right now. My life has totally shifted into making sure my kids are healthy.
Now faces with no income until he finds another job a whole new set of questions are in my face. How do we handle medical bills? How do I get insurance for my kids? How will I feed them?
Asking my son to pick having 1 slice of pizza at school or a whole pie at home is something new for him. I never have allowed kids to worry about money. I always hid it from them.
I'm worried about getting gas for the van, I'm worried about feeding them, I'm worried about getting Anthony his medicine.
The only thing I can control is how I handle this. I won't be living in a cardboard box. I have friends who just gave me a shop rite gift card. My kids will have food. I am going to get Anthony signed up for free lunch. I am going to apply for medical for them. We will get a tax refund soon, I will get us out of credit card debt, then we can coast for a while. Movie nights will become game nights and ordering out will become trying new recipes.
No buying anything, use coupons and SMILE! We are alive, we are for the most part healthy.
I will not allow this stress to take over
I will de-stress every chance I get. I am pleased with myself that I got in my 10 minute work out. And I'm currently soaking in a warm bath! I had looked at my feet and wished I could go for a pedicure but I have the skills to do it myself! So stay strong Maria. You can get your family through this!
